Just how long has it been since you've had a break? I mean, we're all busy running day to day like crazy trying to just keep up with life
Now, apathy isn't normally one of the categories of emotions you see in an emotion wheel, but I think it's important, so I'm putting it in mind. Next, let's talk about sadness.
Here's another emotion that's part of many emotional models anger. And if you're feeling anger, it's diametrically opposed to feeling good energy.
Let's organize the emotions. If you don't feel anything at all, you might think you feel apathy.
And finally, in our organization of emotions, I'm putting contempt. Contempt and anger might be the same thing, but their contempt has an element of it.
Disgust, another big emotional category. And it's not possible while you're feeling disgust to feel love at the same time.
Fear is a big bucket of emotions. It's pretty much recognized as one of the core feelings: fight, flight, or freeze.
I love this one: disgust. What kind of mindset could you adopt to snap yourself out of feeling disgust?
This is a really interesting part of my model on emotions. So it doesn't just stop at the negative.
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We talked about anger and gratitude. If you're feeling positively energetic, excited, more intensely positive, and just positive interest, but really strong positive energy, apply that to kindness.
Got really happy feelings in your heart? Sure, out of disgust.
Fear is a big one. Fear takes a while to process because you gotta calm down first.
Let's talk about sadness. If I'm feeling sad, I need a mindset that will help me get into a positive mental space.
So the mindset that we talked about with fear, to snap out of it, was optimism. But let's say you're feeling joy.
Contempt; we do this one a lot, maybe unconsciously. Contempt is that judging of others, that reaction that just spins you up.
Okay, last one: contempt. We talked about acceptance and
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Y'all last night, I got to see Arthur Brooks talk at an event hosted by UT Austin. He's the author of the book with Oprah Winfrey called Build the life you want.
This is a book by an author called Mel Robbins. And the five second rule is simple.
Are they kind of tightened bunched up around your neck, maybe down here and your chest maybe kind of collected right here because it's a headache you feeling? So I have that a lot.
Here's a great technique. It's called Box breathing.
Did you know that one of the best ways to get someone in your life to open up to you and build a closer relationship with them is by being vulnerable yourself? And psychology it's a term called self disclosure.
Do you think it's possible to just decide that you're going to be creative and do something great? It is possible.
There's lots of studies out there on the power of a hopeful mindset. And this technique right here is remembering a time in the past when you felt hopeful.
Have you heard of the book Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl a lot of people have it's a really popular book. It is really about hope and having hope in the face of all odds.
What is empathy? Empathy is a great tool to relate to your fellow humans.
I could quote a really overused phrase, is your glass half full or half empty? Well, that's what people say when they're talking about whether you're an optimist or a pessimist.
Let's talk about rage. Not like Rage Against the Machine.
I know you do this. It's something we all do. In fact, it's like our brain is a judgment machine.
Are you super busy? I thought so. I'm super busy too.
How do you build trust with another person? It's a true statement that we tend to trust people that we can relate to more so than people that we can't relate to.
This morning, I read this great quote, which is "comparison is the thief of joy." And I think that's really profound. It brings me to the concept of self-acceptance.
Can you picture yourself as a small child? Maybe you have some photos of yourself from back then.
I'm gonna lay a complex topic on. This is the concept of flow.
Another topic: the mindset or concept of trust. Trust is so important in our everyday lives and all of the relationships that we have, even relationships where it may not seem necessary to have trust.
Are you under the assumption that being vulnerable is being weak? I want you to use that because if you are, being vulnerable takes a lot of bravery.
This has been such an impactful philosophy. There's a psychologist and influencer amazing woman named Byron Katie.
Do you ever get writer's block when you need to sit down and write something? Try setting a timer and set it for five minutes, and then literally sit down and right the first thing that comes to your mind, you'll be surprised that you might actually get into it and keep writing and you don't know what might come out and you might get to the end of five minutes and be like, Oh, that's something pretty cool. You might get done in five minutes.
So, when you talk to somebody, as we all do, we kind of have this default set of questions that we ask each other. How are you doing?
Have you ever wanted to be Have you ever wanted to be more compassionate with others in your life? Oh God, we can all use a little bit of that, don't you think?
Amazing life hack here for you. It's really thinking about the art of listening.
It's called cognitive reframing. That's a psychology term but let me tell you how to do it.
I have some questions for you to ask yourself and it's surrounding the impact that you have on others in your life. You may not realize it or think you do.
Have you seen that guy Jay Shetty on YouTube? Or Instagram wherever you follow? Those kinds of folks.
Self Compassion. Do you have it? Do you not have it?
I don't want you to ever underestimate the importance of feeling safe. Ask yourself right now do you feel safe where you are?
So many people are like me, I have anxiety. And it's kind of a state of like unwanted agitation.
Did you know that if you adopt a mindset of curiosity, it can improve your relationships. It can improve your work performance, it can improve your family life and your friendships.
There's an author Susan David. She has a really great book called Emotional agility.
Did you know that forgiveness is actually a skill? And it's a decision that you can make that you actually have to hold a grudge?
You probably hear about this one a lot gratitude. It's what I would call a mindset because it's something you can choose to get in the headspace of.
Sometimes it seems like striving for happiness is an unachievable goal. I know it's something I've really thought about a lot in my years on this planet.
One of my favorite bumper stickers is like who has bumper stickers these days? I don't know not me.
You are a badass, just gonna tell you that you're so awesome. I can't even believe how awesome you are.
Loyalty. Is that important to you?
How do you get unstuck from feeling angry or in a category of emotions inside anger? Well, you eventually want to get to a place where you can cultivate gratitude.
Feeling apathetic? Let me tell you what to do about that. So, the first thing is to go through the five-second exercise, which is count down from 5-4-3-2-1 and then do something.
So, if you find yourself feeling an emotion like disgust, or anything along those lines, guilty, mortified, the method for processing that and becoming more resilient is like this: according to my model, distract yourself. Notice the emotions you're feeling and don't let them get you down; do something different.
Very common category of emotion is fear, and let me tell you how you can be resilient in the face of fear. Well, eventually work towards the mindset of optimism.
Are you looking to be more empathetic in your life with the people around you? When you find yourself feeling an emotion in the category of positive interest, it could be anticipation, or you're feeling really focused, or just mind blown, harness that feeling and write about it.
So let's say you're feeling joyful, happy, thrilled, lighthearted, or anything in our joy category. How can you build upon that?
If you find yourself in one of the emotions in the category of love, it's time to share that with others. And the way that you do that is to call somebody up and share with them something.