Mastering the Art of Listening: A Life Hack for Better Connections
Amazing life hack here for you. It's really thinking about the art of listening.
And it is an art and it's something that you really got to practice. It doesn't just come naturally. There's an intention behind listening. So, the way that you do this intentional listening, is you give your full attention to a person speaking. And what you do is just just push aside, you have these urges in your brain to answer a question to jump in, to maybe share an experience that that person's story made you think of just quiet that down while they're speaking. And if you're, if it pops up in your mind, just Oh, quiet. Oh quiet and just give yourself permission to it's okay if you forget it. And never say it. It's a okay, just keep your attention focused like a meditation almost on the person that's in front of you. First, secondly, let them finish their thoughts without interrupting them. So if you can quiet your own mind that will help ease the tendency or desire to like interrupt somebody. But we love to talk without being interrupted. It feels really good.
Occasionally, when they pause, paraphrase what you just heard. So right now I can say oh, Tina, really great that you're talking about listening. And what I what I heard you say is that I should just like turn my brain off while another person is talking to see how it impacts what I'm hearing.
Yeah, that's what you do. You just repeat that makes life easier and people really likes you a lot better to it's crazy.
Rather than jumping to creating solutions or giving advice when somebody is talking, don't do that.
If somebody wants advice from you, they'll probably ask you for advice. If you really have a burning desire to give advice to them. Ask them their permission first. Say Are you wanting to just vent right now? Or are you looking for advice or guidance and if they say you know, I really love your viewpoint on that. Go ahead and give your advice. But if they don't they say I just want to vent.
Don't give them advice. Okay, that's way to be a good listening human.
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