This has been such an impactful philosophy. There's a psychologist and influencer amazing woman named Byron Katie. And she has this book called loving what is I don't know this this was a life changing for me when I learned this, but it's basically five steps. Let me tell you what they are. contemplate them. If you want to learn more, pick up her book on loving what is and it will hopefully change your life too. But here they are, number one, become aware of your story. What is it you're telling yourself about the situation so know that a situation maybe it's a fight you've had with a friend or a partner or a co worker, somebody in your life?

You think that that situation the way that you're perceiving it is reality, but it's not what it is? It's how your mind is telling yourself that it's real, but that's your story. Other people have different stories, but just know that what you thought you saw what you thought you heard how you thought that interaction went down.

It's not real. That's just your story in your head to ask yourself, Is this story true? Now that's a simple yes or no question. It's either yes, it's true. Or no, it's not true.

All right, number three, ask yourself, can you absolutely know it's true?

So the fight that you've had, what was it over?

And your perception of that fight? Do you think that you're right, and the other person is wrong?

Can you absolutely 100% Positively know that that's true. And just consider that.

Number four, ask yourself, Who would you be without that thought? So the story or the thought that like for example, I'm right, and an argument.

Imagine a scenario where you don't have that thought. One way that is a good as number five, which is take the thought and turn it around into the opposite of what it is. So instead of like we had a fight about money, and I right and my partner overspent on something and I really angry about it, say it in the opposite. We had an amazing discussion about money, and my partner made a decision for an expense. And I fully support the expense that they made. And they made a good decision about money. Even if you're not like believing that, just try it out in your head and see how it feels. And that's gonna get you into a whole new space in life. That's gonna help you level up by the year.

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